// Shedding the chameleon//

This summer, my sister came to visit me in SD while I was taking classes at school. I spent most of that time miserable because I was jealous that all my friends seemed to love her more than me. 

This Thanksgiving break, I came to visit my older sister in LA at her school. After a night out with her friends, she verbalized her thoughts with no filters. She told me she hated me because she thought all her friends loved me more than her.

I was shocked to hear that my older sister was jealous of me. I always felt like I lived in her shadow. But hearing her tell me that she envied my bubbly and energetic personality and ability to socialize with strangers made me realize something about myself.

I don’t have to be a chameleon. I don’t want to mimic someone else. I’ve neglected my real self for far too long. People will always compare each other to what they don’t have. But they should remember what qualities they do have and shine through their own light. For a while I was lost, but now I’m again found.

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adizzzzle:

you told me it was june..

why july to me

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It saddens me to see girls proudly declaring they’re not like other girls – especially when it’s 41,000 girls saying it in a chorus, never recognizing the contradiction. It’s taking a form of contempt for women – even a hatred for women – and internalizing it by saying, Yes, those girls are awful, but I’m special, I’m not like that, instead of stepping back and saying, This is a lie.

The real meaning of “I’m not like the other girls” is, I think, “I’m not the media’s image of what girls should be.” Well, very, very few of us are. Pop culture wants to tell us that we’re all shallow, backstabbing, appearance-obsessed shopaholics without a thought in our heads beyond cute boys and cuter handbags. It’s a lie – a flat-out lie – and we need to recognize it and say so instead of accepting that judgment as true for other girls, but not for you.
joshw4:

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joshw4:

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